Does anyone remember that government program called Vision 2010 that General Sani Abacha was trying to promote before magun got him? I guess the vision went kaput with the man. I have been thinking about this program all year because I remember thinking as a child that 2010 was so far away. I mean who in their right mind would plan that far ahead. Like – really. But dang, it showed up fast.
Anyhue – this post is not about Abacha’s pet project. It is about New Year resolutions. Not for me though, I never make resolutions. I just don’t have the temerity for such. I just wonder why people make resolutions when they know that by the third week of January, all they resolved to do would be a resolved to dont.
I find resolutions somewhat useless since I do constant self-assessments. I look over what has worked in the past few months/quarter/season and figure out what to get rid of and what not to. For two weeks now, I have been doing my self-assessments and a few of the things I found out about myself (okay, some I already knew about but I was in denial) really shocked me. For one thing, I have found that any unhappiness or depression is never because of things that I do but rather how I react to those things and the fact that I am usually unwilling to change my situation because I value rituals and hate drastic changes. So I have made a mental list of the things in my life that will definitely need to go ‘cus they are not working for me.
- Start speaking up about what I NEED. Most of my frustrations are because I feel people deliberately do things in order to get me. Not true. If I communicated my NEEDs more efficiently to others most of my frustrations would not exist. Unless the other individual is a complete @sshole.
- Talk about and do more of what is important to me. I need to let people know about the things I am most interested in so they don’t waste their time trying to get me involved in things I don’t want to do.
- Get rid of old things so you can buy new things. For example … my tattered gym clothes that make me look like a hobo, my old bras that won’t let me breathe, my sketchers which is one size too small…if I don’t throw out old furniture, I won’t have room for new ones. This also applies to negative thinking. You need to get rid of old ways to thinking to make room for new ideas.
- If something does not feel right, I need to either change my attitude about it or change the situation. Whining about it or getting frustrated about it is no longer an option.
- Get rid of shame and/or guilt. They are worthless emotions that drain my energy.
- Try not to make the same mistake twice. I am just too old for that.
- And my favorite: quit doing the same things over and over again while expecting different results. This oneliner is really hard because I am a creature of habit.
I am sure there are more that I will come up with as time goes on…but I just felt it would be a nice tidbit to share with you guys as you prepare your New Year Resolutions.